What if you took a life lesson from the rubber band? If you stretch a rubber band, the tension will seek resolution. It will seek to relax. And, as it relaxes it creates a momentum that propels it forward. Aim the rubber band at a specific destination, and it will have a focused forward momentum. What might happen in your life if you had the same kind of focused forward momentum a rubber band has when its aimed at and then released at a target?
Remember, the definition of tension as it is being used in this context is a stretching condition that produces forward momentum. It is not the use of stress or strain or deadlines to push yourself forward.
So, how can you generate results using creative tension as a structure that pulls you forward in your life?
You start the process by asking yourself: What do you want? What do you want to create? For example, what career do you want to create? What relationship do you want to create? What business do you want? What do you want?
When you ask yourself what you want, separate it from what is or isn't possible. The only time you know if what you want is or isn't possible is after you have actually attempted or done it. The rest is speculation until you've made the attempt. Tell yourself the truth about what you want and no censoring yourself! Create what matters to you. You want an Oscar, then that's your truth. If you are single and want to be married, then that's your truth. You want to be the owner of a profitable business, then that's your truth. The "what do you want" question is about what you genuinely want, not whether it is or isn't possible or when it can become a reality.
Be clear and specific about the result you want to create. Form a mental picture of the result you want to create. Look at your desired outcome from a variety of angles: Exactly what will it look like? How will you feel when you have it? What will you be wearing? Who will be there with you when you realize your vision? Who will you be when you create this outcome? Another great way to prompt yourself as you articulate your vision is to use magazines or other visual media to help you see in a specific and tangible way what you want to create.
By Lea Tolub Brandenburg